"Just recently my son Bobby came out to me. I had been worried for awhile. His teachers said most of his grades were slipping and he seemed depressed and withdrawn.Technorati tags: homosexuality, fundamentalism
Bobby said he'd been hiding it for awhile because he was afraid I would reject him. I sat him down and told him that I loved him and that God loved him, but that his salvation was in danger if he did not resist his unnatural tempations. I told him how being gay would mean he would live a shorter life, and that if he couldnt change his orientation he could be celibate like most the ex-gays are. He started crying saying something along the lines of "I knew you wouldnt understand! You're just like everyone else!" before running to his room and slamming the door.
What did I do wrong? I dont want to lose my son, but I fear I already have. I talked it over with his therapist, who had the ludicrous idea that homosexuality was unchangable and that trying to repress could lead to lots of psychological damage (I've dropped him and will try to be finding another therapist with more moral beliefs). I wouldnt be surprised if he's the one who's feeding my son all the homosexual propaganda about how its 'ok' to be gay. That, or how homosexuality has engulfed the media, making it seem 'cool' and 'hip' and how they were just another oppressed minority. You didnt have to worry about seeing two men making out on tv at my age! I dont want to sound like a fanatic, but Im worried what other effects will come out of this increasingly secular, immoral society obsessed with filth.
Am I too late? Or is it possible to save my son
[Note: The thread this originally came from indicates that this boy eventually took his own life.]"
Saturday, December 23, 2006
Ignorance kills
Not everything from FSTDT is funny (EDIT FOR CLARIFICATION: This is taken from the website Fundies Say the Darndest Things, which in turn took it from a different discussion board):
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Ugh, that makes me sick to my stomach. I hope that kid made it out alive.
Crap didn't read the bottom to see he took his life. Now I'm just angry...
My heart goes out to you and to your son. you are right ignorance kills.......but quoting things like you have jsut done to your son is only showing your ignorance. The bible speaks about false witness and what you are doing is give a false account of what lives for 1000's of gays is like.
we live wonderfully rewarding, fulfilling lives.
this section from my autobiography might help you to see how dangerous your approach to your son is. if you would like to speak further about this i'm happy to correspond to you via email.
i hope this helps
"Nineteen-year-old Reece told me about how his parents sent him to a Christian counsellor who put him on a lie detector as a way of monitoring his ‘transformation’. His sister told him that unless he changed, he would not be allowed alone with her children. Reece eventually had to leave home. Peter and I had known each other in the ministry (I had never guessed he might be gay) but we had lost contact over the years. We reconnected after he had read my book, revealing he was living a tormented, closeted life. What would happen if he told the church leaders or his children? After marriage, serving in the ministry, some sexual involvement with another pastor who also suppressed his homosexuality, multiple physical and psychological problems, therapy, and depression, Peter was seriously considering that he should end his life. One night, I felt a strong impression to call him again and I’m glad I responded to that prompting. As a result of that phone call Peter has finally come out at the age of fifty. Though we’ve spoken of regret and what his life may have been like had he done this in his teens, he is at least now living free of the destructive, emotional and psychological consequences of his suppression.
Anthony broke down frequently as he read me the letters his twenty-six-year-old lover Michael had written to his Christian parents begging them to love him as he was and to accept Anthony, the man he loved, as his partner. In Michael’s letters he pleads for acceptance but the response always comes back, ‘We love you but … we don’t want you to be gay. We love you but … we don’t want you to be with Anthony.’ That one word made all the difference to Michael. ‘BUT . . .’ A small word that means the world of difference between love or rejection. What Michael’s parents should have said was, We love you, Michael. FULL STOP! No conditions. Then they would have been showing God’s love. A person in the church in Perth had told Michael, ‘If you don’t change then you’ll be dead before you reach twenty-six.’ These words, like a curse, played on Michael’s mind and even though he had a partner and friends who loved him, the inability to resolve his relationship with his Mum and Dad meant that when Anthony came home to celebrate Michael’s twenty-sixth birthday, he found him dead in the car in the garage. Anthony doesn’t think much of Christians. Christine, the mother of a thirteen-year-old boy, revealed that her son spent six months in psychiatric treatment because his Christian teacher told him all homosexuals will burn in hell, then showed the class films of hell. She called it spiritual abuse and regrets ever sending her child to a Christian School.
I could compile a book of several volumes from the stories I have received. If my motive was to be sensational or cause scandal there are enough secrets in that correspondence to cause major embarrassment to some denominations. My motive, though, is not to seek revenge or to create more heartache—I want change. "
sorry Chris......i too thought you were the father of this boy and didn't realise you were posting if from another thread.
*Sigh*
Two people misunderstand me over the course of one post. Have to be careful to make myself clearer.
Chris,
Ever thought about commenting on the other post you had? About the contradictions? I would really like to hear what you think about this.
Thanks
I am having trouble getting RSS to work with your blog for some reason. I can't auto-discover it, so if you have it enabled through blogger, please add a link. Thanks!
Okay, ignore my previous comment about RSS. That is what happens when I get on the internet before my coffee. I got it working now.
The saddest thing about this post is the fact that that boy is no doubt now burning in hell. If only he had come back to Jesus and put aside his life of sin!
Thank you for posting this article from the original forum via http://www.unidiversal.com/STPEditorialsHomosexuality20041106Forum.html It is not near as unusual as people try to believe - which makes it even more outrageous than it already appears to be. It’s time to build faith for diversity instead of faith for discrimination! (Unidiversal Website Host - www.unidiversal.com)
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